Well, it’s official. My roommate and I had our “talk” and she’s going to move out sometime in the spring.
I confronted her about the FB posting and she says that she has been planning it for a while–she doesn’t like living so “far away” from the downtown core (We’re not really that far, but she used to live right in Chinatown so I guess it seems far to her).
I think this is probably the best solution. Neither of us get along with one another too much these days and we have a lot of grievances (Festivus, anyone? — my single Seinfeld reference).
We’re going to try and make it work and have an amicable parting of ways. This gives her some time to find a new place and move when the weather is better, and it gives me a chance to keep getting half the rent for a while longer. Now I don’t have to worry quite *as* much about the surgery repayment.
As an aside, she won’t believe me that she’s only paying half the rent… she thinks that $50 is too much to pay for internet, but we have the super internet… sooo frustrating to be called a cheat!
Even though it will be tight when she leaves, I’ll have a few months to create a buffer of savings to help me in the future when full rent and debt repayment overlap. I crunched the numbers today and after all fixed expenses+debt I’ll have about $500/mo left over to live. Does that sound do-able for a few months? My food expenses will be drastically decreased, mind you.
I’m still kind of pissed at her for a lot of things, but I think I just need to simmer down some more. Being angry makes me tired and makes my jaw hurt, and I have so many better things to do than be angry at a kid like her.
But we were supposed to do a gift exchange (her suggestion) and I special-ordered her some stuff that can’t be returned. Now she doesn’t want to do it. I don’t either, but what am I going to do with her stuff now that I’ve spent money on it? Grrrr.
6 responses to “Movin’ on up”
Keep it for yourself or donate it to charity in her name ( and give her a photo of what you had intended to give her with a nice card saying what you did).
Sounds like a good solution-it's tough to live a contented life if the person you're living with is driving you up a wall. I would be tempted to be the (slightly passive-aggresive) bigger person, and give her the gift anyway (assuming it can't be given to anyone but her-otherwise, like Sam said, charity is a great idea).
Can you just show her the bills to confirm to her that you're not lying to her?
Also, for future reference if you get another roommate, I think it is super important to have monthly meetings where you have dinner together, discuss bills, any grievances, ect. Talking about things BEFORE they become huge issues is super important.
As for the gift, is there any one else you can give them to? An aunt? Grandma? Friend? Or maybe save if to see if someone in the course of the next year might like it as a birthday gift?
good thing you got rid of her… i just read all the older posts and she sounds like a jerk. not to mention shady with the fb thing. hopefully you can find someone better!
Well, it's a good thing you guys talked BEFORE she got up and moved. Least now you have a timeframe. Will you be taking on another roommate? Because it sounds like you don't intend to…
PS – Merry Christmas Ginger. 🙂
I'm glad it all got out in the open, finally. Seinfeld reference appreciated. 🙂
And I'd either save the presents and re-gift them or use it yourself. I'm certain they won't go to waste.