That’s right, folks! Tomorrow (Wednesday) is the big night in which I go to my concert with Band Boy!
You guys have given me some seriously great advice, it’s like my own little group of cheerleaders!
So I’m calling on you again… how should I handle the situation tomorrow night? I’ve gotten lots of advice both for and against asking him out at the concert and I’m confused!
I told one friend my rough plans (she found her bf through Craigslist, too!) and she said that I shouldn’t ask him out or set anything up at the concert. She said that I should mention (as genuine as I can) that I really enjoyed his company and would like to hang out with him again (assuming I actually want to). Then she said I should call him a week later or something and ask him to see a movie, just very casual.
Then others are saying I should ask him to grab a drink, etc. right after the concert (same night) and others are saying that I should basically ask him out that night, but for a later date.
See how I got so confuzzled? lol!
I have no guts, even contemplating this stuff is making my knees knock. I would really like to give this a try though. I figure that I really have nothing to lose except my pride, right?
I’ve been trying hard not to think about this too much, and focussing instead on how much fun I am going to have at this concert–I don’t want to psych myself up too much and end up having a miserable time because something doesn’t go my way.
GAH!
I feel like a broken record now. Why does getting a date have to be so hard? I just don’t get what’s wrong with me! I would seriously like to ask someone who knows me well (or all the guys I’ve ever met) why no one ever asks me out! I’ve only ever been asked out once before this, but I don’t think it even counts. And I’m not counting random Nicest Comment Guy, either.
I am sad 🙁
8 responses to “Ahh! Concert is tomorrow!”
Call me old fashioned, but I probably wouldn't do anything. I wouldn't suggest going out after the show, or ask him out for another night, or call him in a few days. If a guy is interested in you, he's going to lock up a time to see you again pretty quickly – whether he secures something the night of the concert, or sometime over the next few days. Even if he just chats you up by e-mail or MSN, he'll do something to talk to you again.
I met my BF (who is suuuuper shy) in a local outdoorsy store. Turns out he was in town for a concert – and it just so happened that I was working at the concert. Before the show started, he found me in the arena and asked if he could give me a lift home afterward. When he dropped me off, we exchanged numbers and e-mail addresses. And the rest is history!
I'm pretty old fashioned too…but I would still let him know that I really enjoyed his company (as long as you did, and without being overly gushy and clingy).
Make sure he has your contact info (biz card or whatever) so that he CAN contact you again afterwards, if he is interested.
After the concert, gauge the mood: if it seems/feels like he'd go for a coffee or something to that effect, bring it up. Say something like "Man I could really go for a drink!" and hopefully he'll kick in with "Me too! Where do you wanna go?" or whatever!
Good luck dearie!!!
PS – my word verification was POONjabi…I think this is a sign.
I agree on the not asking him out to do anything after the show (he'll be meeting up with his friends and whatnot…if he invites you though to go with them (provided they are doing something…definitely go! 🙂 )
and I do think that you need to make sure he knows how much fun you had with him (i.e you play the best air guitar, I've never laughed more!) That's key!
Obviously make sure that he has your contact info.
I don't think there is anything wrong with suggesting getting together sometime when something comes up that you'd know/or think he might like though that you like too (or will put up with!!)
So excited for you…can't wait to hear the update! Meanwhile, just have fun! 🙂
I pretty much agree with what Rina the Mama Bear says. Try to gauge the mood after the concert ends. Who knows, maybe he'll suggest you guys go somewhere? Then again, it's a work night (I assume–Wednesday night) and he might want to just head home. I'd be too shy to suggest going out but I would probably beat around the bush like "Soooo what's the rest of your week looking like?" I hope it goes well, can't wait to read about it! Good luck & have fun! 🙂
I know what you mean about getting a date. I consider myself average and sometimes pretty. I just don't understand how some girls can get asked out all the time. Not to toot my own horn….but seriously?
It wasn't until I was out the other night with one of my guy "friends" and there was a dude going around hitting on these random girls. It was funny to watch, but when he neared me, I was preparing to swivel on my stool so that my back would face him. I din't want to be bothered. My friend asked me what I was doing and I explained. He said, "Jen, drunk or not, guys don't want to be made a fool of. You are too good looking. He would never even think to come over here."
And then in clicked. I don't really put myself out there. I am very old fashioned. I never make the first move. So, all that I can think is that I am not an ogre that no one wants to ask out. I am sure that when the planets aline, I will find my "true love". Until then, I am just having a good time.
Don't stress about tonight. Just enjoy a beautiful night with a beautiful man. You can always turn the flirt on, but don't force it. Have a great time!
I think it would depend on how the concert goes. If you guys are having a great time then it makes sense to say if you are free let's grab a drink. he'll either say yes, no I have other plans, or invite you to join his other plans. I would keep it casual though and not ask him on a formal date.
No matter what you choose I hope you have a great time!
While you did meet previously and hit it off, wait and see how it goes with the concert. Then go on from there. Good luck and have fun!
Dating IS confusing!! I totally understand!! I was SO bad at dating and pretty much had to be guided by my BF. Ha ha. I agree with Krystal and others – if he is interested, he'll go for it. Good luck! Have fun! Looking forward to the recap!!!!!!!! 🙂